Sunday, May 24, 2009

confidence to be me

Well, I have been thinking about doing some motivational speaking. My theme- the confidence to be me. I have it started in my head but can't seem to get it out on paper. I want to practice in toastmasters. I want speak to high schoolers. Any suggestions and support is greatly appreciated!

The idea behind my talk is to love yourself as you are. No matter what - we have something we don't like about ourselves. After losing most of my weight, I don't like my arms or inner thighs. We are hard on ourselves. We take what other people think to heart and also condemn ourselves to a life of criticism. I want to use the line "the world will tell you who you are until you tell the world" in my talk.

So like I said- suggestions and support is much appreciated. Not sure the length of speech - I think I want to make it 30-60 minutes with variations so if I am asked to speak for 15 minutes I have it covered and ready to go. I don't know. perhaps I wouldn't do well with this. But I guess I won't know unless I try!

Until I blog again.....

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

biggest loser finale

I loved the finale!!! This was so awesome. I screamed, cheered, and cried!! Of course Mike went on to the finals. I wanted Mike to win! BUT I have to give credit where credit is due- Helen looked amazing. It was close!

When Jerry walked out on stage- Ty and I were pretty sure he had the at home prize in the bag. To see this man-passes out in the first hour of the season- takes an ambulance to the hospital, goes home at the end of the first week, COMES BACK to the finale- lost 177 pounds and won 100,000 dollars! I cheered and clapped every time they mentioned his name. He looked amazing. He had a couple of people come close to beating him but pretty much untouchable.

For the most part, everyone did a great job and looked amazing! It is so motivating to me. I need a push- please send me encouragement to get my hind end exercising! I want to make it to my goal but after all those health issues and solutions, I just haven't been motivated to work out! I am doing a GREAAATTTTTT job maintaining! I lose a pound gain the pound, lose the pound, gain the pound!! If I would lose a new pound every time instead of the same pound, I would be to my goal! HA

I will get there. Slow and Steady wins the race!!!! I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.... if at first you don't succeed, try try again.... feel free to send me your own cliche motivations!! HAHAHA

I am feeling better every day, and more like myself. It has been a long 5 months, and I have a few more months of uncertain side effects from the injection I received, but life is progressing! I am gaining energy and this past weekend with time away-I know I will be ok!

until I blog again.....

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Life passing you by?

The biggest loser last night- WOW

Four people left, sent home for 30 days, find out they are going to run a marathon for their last challenge, and despite their worries about it, they all plan to do it and finish. Ron knows his knees aren't doing well but says right off that he will be walking it and intends to walk the whole 26 miles!!

So the contestants learn a little bit about balancing their lives and how to relax and enjoy without over doing on the calories. They learn a little bit more about themselves. I liked when Jillian pointed out that looking at Mike and his brother Max side by side was like a real live before and after photo.

Ron knows that he was not a good example to his kids and wants to change that - that was his driving force. He may have been a big game player but it was all in efforts to help his kid succeed- as a parent I understand that. I am proud of him for his level of understanding in his role in his kids' health. I was shocked that he intended to do the marathon!

Mike- bless his heart, he wants his brother to succeed. He and Ron spend some of their time in that 30 days at home to help Max get started! Bob and Jillian even help Max. I was so touched by that. Max showed such a level of dedication himself.

So onto the marathon. Just a couple of days before the challenge Mike hurts his hip somehow and is forced to walk the marathon. He is bummed out of course but resigns himself to walking. And so Tara and Helen start off running and the men walk. Their prize for the challenge is IF they finish they will get 10,000 dollars for a charity of their choice! Awesome!!!

At one point on the marathon they see a friend or family member waiting for them and that person joins them for a while. Max is there!!! He walks with Mike and makes it quite far for someone of his size. This allowed Mike to walk a bit faster and leaves his dad behind. The ladies finish is under 6 hours. Mike finishes in 9 hours, and they wait for Ron. That man is amazing!!! he set his mind to finishing that marathon- he has to stop a handful of times and even take time to be checked out by the dr. AND YET HE KEEPS GOING!!!!! some 13 hours later that man walks across the finish line-several people walking with him- other contestants, past contestants, etc!! Mike, Max, and Ron embrace - I am crying like a baby- and all four contestants get a check for $10,000. Weigh in takes place, Mike and Ron are below the yellow line and America gets to vote who makes the finale. Ron, of course, pleads for America to vote for his son.

So- let me tell you- this show has me feeling a little bummed out. To see Ron push himself and do what he did. WOW- I think about my own progress at the moment and overall really. I see Helen lifting 25 pounds in ONE hand over her head!!! WOW! A co-worker of mine pointed out to me one day that I wasn't suppose to compare that kind of stuff to myself (I felt silly at the idea of lifting my little 5 pounds on a bench next to someone lifting 50 pounds), he is right. BUT what I am thinking about right now is the fact that I am not doing things I should be doing. I am not exercising right now, I am not pushing myself beyond my limits! I see these contestants, especially ones bigger than I am, and think "I cannot do that even now!!!" A marathon! Ok so a level of humilty has set in. I can do better than I have been doing.

I used my exercise to push myself through the pain after surgery and all, but after my last trip to the hospital I was worn out. I was frustrated, tired, and fed up with being sick and no answers. My level of energy was dimished greatly from it all. Now I am feeling better but not very driven to get back to the gym. I am going to be getting my hind end moving!!! I have 30 pounds to go. (I gained some back in this whole ordeal but that is ok) I want to get to my goal weight. I can't get to that if I don't start working for it. I have slipped in some of my food choices as well. I need to refocus and get back on track. That is my goal. I am not beating myself up over this- it will only bring me down. I am just going to use that marathon to drive me to do better. Motivation

So my goal is to get moving! and not just to the fridge!!! I am going to make a list of the things I want to do- the things I didn't do because of my weight. A bucket list if you will. I am going to work on doing those things on my list!!! Parasailing was something I passed up (there were other reasons behind that than just my weight). bike riding, sports, wearing a swim suit and enjoying the water! Not sure a marathon would be on my list of things I want to do, but I am going to work on getting the things done I passed up because of my weight. It is time to live. honestly- big people don't pass up everything just because of our weight. We pass it up because we are afraid that others will make fun of the fat person sailing in the sky, or afraid the gear won't fit and have to face the embarrassment of hearing the poor person helping you say "it just won't fit you are too big" oh the shame of it all. Some it falls into the self confident level! Who cares if someone sees a fat person flying around parasailing... did I want to do it- YES then why do I care what someone thinks. Why did I give up my chance to do something I thought would be fun cause I worried what someone would think!?

No more- It is time to do what I am interested in despite what others might think, despite what size I might be. I am going to push through and accomplish whatever goals I set for myself. I am going to push myself to reach my potential and then some. It is time to live- time to stop letting life pass me by. Time to do those things I dreamed about- time for a change.

until I blog again.....